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Did You Know – 05/07/2018

 

  1. About Wine

 

2. About Mayochup

 

3. Once Crows leave the nest they come back to visit the Parents. And they help out around the nest by taking care of young!

 

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Babies don’t smile because they’re happy, they smile because they know it makes their Mum and Dad Happy. They have even know to act certain ways to see if they smile.

 

5. Gorillas hum when they eat the food they love. Also lets the others know that they are busy eating. I guess that is a time not to interrupt.

 

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6. Istanbul has vending machines that if you insert a plastic container it will give out water and food for stray animals. The machine feeds about 150,000 animals in the area.

 

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13 Toxic Phrases You Should NEVER Say To Your Kid

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As a a young mother I did not have a computer or that much contact with the outside world as we were in remote areas. Plus My Mum and Dad were thousands of miles away so my experience of Mother Hood was zilch I just did the best that I knew how like most of us.

I always love the lesson I learnt from observing, was to hug my children as much as I could (That I learnt from a friend as I did not experience that with my parents). 

To tell them that you love them as much as you can (That also I did not learn from my parents. In fact when I call my Mum who is 96 I always end the call with “Love You Mum”. I have never ever heard her return “I love you too”. She just not know how. Kinda Sad I think. That generation found it hard to be demonstrative )

The other thing I have learnt is that when you walk into the room a child will always look at your face to see the greeting, so always make sure your face is filled with delight at the sight of them. 

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This is an article written by Samantha Darby for Romper.

I could have written this article myself being a mother of two but Samantha has done a great job writing this article and probably a better job than me.

So this article is one that all new Mothers should read because we do make mistakes and maybe if we ‘Knew better we would do better’. 

Thinking twice before saying these phrases to our children may be the kindest thing we can do for them.

 

 

1. “Stop Crying.”

If your child is crying, then they are upset. Sure, it’s frustrating that the reason they’re crying is because you gave them the exact snack they asked for, but kids are kids. How many times have you, as an adult, burst into tears over nothing? Telling your children to stop crying is telling them that the way they process their emotions isn’t OK.

2. “Just Let Me Do It.”

Watching your 3-year-old try to zip his own jacket with mittens on is hard, I know. Especially when they are insistent on doing it on their own. But the phrase “just let me do it” can be damaging. Instead, ask them if they need help or ask if you can show them a trick to making it easier.

3. “I Don’t Like You Right Now.”

Kids are going to do some terrible things. They’re going to make giant messes, they’re going to throw tantrums, they’re going to act out when you ask them to do something — it’s all normal. And sure, there will come a point when you think, “I don’t even like my own kid right now.” But you can’t say that to your little mini-me. Instead, tell them you don’t like the way they are acting or the way they are speaking.

4. “You Have No Reason To Be Upset.”

How do you know? I once got upset because I lost one of my child’s boots in Target and cried the whole way home. I felt like an idiot, but I had my reason for crying, and so does your child. They have every right to be upset about something and, often, the reason they’re upset may be something normal like they’re exhausted or hungry. (Seriously, if anyone knows the life of a child being hangry, it’s my kid and me.)

5. “Only Babies Act Like That.”

This phrase covers a whole range of situations. I’ve heard parents say this to older children crying, to big kids having accidents, and even to preschoolers who are over-tired. It’s belittling, end of story.

6. “I Sacrifice A Lot For You.”

Lots of mommy martyrs like to use this one. Of course you sacrifice a lot; you’re a mother. But your children didn’t ask to be here. They didn’t ask you to have them. Reminding them that you sacrifice a lot for them makes you the queen of guilt trips and can make your children feel like they owe you something for being a mother.

7. “Leave Me Alone.”

We all need quiet time as parents, but you should say that instead. “Mommy needs a little break.” “Mommy is going to have some alone time.”

8. “I Never Get Time To Myself.”

Again, sanctimommy words. There’s literally no reason to say this to your child. You’re going to make them feel bad if they’re old enough to process that statement, or you’re just putting it in their head that they are a nuisance.

9. “Stop Asking Me Questions.”

It’s annoying, I know. But you want your kids to be curious. You want them to question their surroundings, to ask you about things they hear and see.

10. “Get Over It.”

You’re basically telling your child that their feelings don’t matter and that they need to hurry up and move past a situation. Unfair.

11. “It’s Not A Big Deal.”

But everything is a big deal to kids. Literally, everything. If they finish a puzzle, if their ice cream cone falls to the floor, and seeing a giraffe at the zoo — all enormously big deals.

12. “Don’t Be So ___.”

Shy. Bratty. Rude. Talkative. Loud. This is your child. They are going to do things and say things and sometimes you’re not going to like it. But telling them not to be something doesn’t help. You can ask them to “be more grateful” instead of saying, “don’t be so rude.” It’s all about positive reinforcement.

13. “I Don’t Care.”

Whether it’s about their friend at recess that ate a wood chip or that they are now a Buzz fan instead of Woody, it’s important to them. It’s important that they share things with you, that they ask you what you think. They want you to be just as excited as they are, so muttering that you don’t care makes them feel like their thoughts are pointless. If you don’t care, why should anyone else?

 

 

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Lord Helps Those Who Help Themselves – Thats What My Mum Said

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September 3, 2015 · 10:13 AM

Poem Friday – 01/23/2015 – Start 2015 Just Right


I love the mornings, best time of the day
With a view like this it starts in a good way

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At this time I was in NZ to see my Mum
And of course ‘Charlie’ her dog love her she is such fun

Her face is so cute, of course communicates in dog talk
Especially when you are about to take her for a walk

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Christmas day is a great family tradition
Mutton on spit, motor broke down, turning by hand was the decision

Many a beer had to be drunk while it cooked away
Probably what gave it that great flavor I would say

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Went to Mt Ruapahu a four hour trip to see friends
Snow on the mountain, a view from my bed, the beauty never ends

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And no that is not cloud coming from Tongariro Mountain
Its volcanic activity, spewing smoke and at times a hot lava fountain

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About to leave NZ and go to Australia I call home
Take charlie for his last walk with me, no lead I just let him roam

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Now back in Australia where the morning is a beach
I know, a long way from Houston that I miss, I wish my arms could reach

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It is such a great pleasure to watch my grandson and son
At the beach together surfing the waves while I go for a run.
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Just to end I was lying on the beach sunbaking looking up at the sky
With my new camera I took this picture of the moon, It just looked beautiful that is why

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Ate too much at xmas so need to exercise to get fit
Boxing this morning tomorrow these steps, no time to sit

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But at the top is a beautiful sight
Makes you feel good and start 2015 just right

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The Rescue Of Twin Koala’s – Great Pictures An So Cute

It is not common for a Koala to have twins, and regrettably in this instance the Mum was struck and killed by a passing car.

Fortunately, the driver stopped, and took the mother to the local vet, not knowing she was dead,

– where it was discovered she had these twins in her pouch.

First photo: Tiny koala being fed with syringe … So tiny!!! Followed by a pictorial chronology of their growth…..

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                                                                        Thanks for saving my life!

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I Am About To Get On My Harley, See A Movie After A Snack

I Am About To Get On My Harley, See A Movie After A Snack
By Lesley Voth

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Ohinemuri Estate

I arrived in New Zealand about 3 weeks ago
My brother had arranged a get together with cousins, Mum and Co

Good idea have not seen them in years
I knew there would be celebration with copious wine and beers

So off we went the next Saturday for lunch
I knew we would have a good time as they are all a jolly bunch

We went to a place called Ohinemuri restaurant and winery
We arrived  with Mum and dog at round twelve at Karangahake gorge in all our finery

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I know they sound funny names to those of other places
But its the same in different countries of different races

It was good to see them, a few extra wrinkles and all
It had been a few years since we met, some smaller some tall

We laughed and reminisced about the years gone by
I was a bridesmaid for one of them, oh my how time did fly

So there we were looking at old photo’s and such like, simple things that gave us thrills
Laughing about our Scottish  grandfather, so mean, put his car in neutral going down hills

Anyway four hours later we all went our separate ways
Still chuckling about the stupid things we did in those days.

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My Mum bless her soul was not sure what to make of the day
At 94 every day is a new day for her, memories vague for her in a way
But I have to say in a pleasing way her sense of humor it did stay

I am now in Texas, been here for a week, great weather but today rain and Thunder
The sky went black, warnings and alerts this morning, sky opened up, scary no wonder

Anyway Houston it is good to be back
I am about to get on my Harley, see a movie after a snack

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I am In Aotearoa

I Am In Aotearoa – The Land Of The Long White Cloud

Yes, here I am again in New Zealand and yes it is living up to its name, for the first two days it was covered in cloud and raining big time. Fortunately for the last two days we have had some beautiful sunny but cool weather. When the weather is like this here is feels very clean and crisp, the hills have that blue green look, very pleasant indeed but unfortunately there is rain on the way again.

I am here to see my Mum here in Omokoroa as I do every year. She is now 93 so I treasure what time we have together.
I love the fact she still has her sense of humor even though the memory is not the best. In fact she forgot I was coming and was not home when I arrived, she was up at the boy friends, well I guess it is more like Man friend, as she does not like staying at home on her own at night, so was pleasantly surprised when she got home the next morning. One thing about Mum it is always so nice to see her face light up and say “Oh Luvy it is so good to see you, they didn’t tell me you were coming they must have wanted to surprise me” (They, being my brother had told her many times during the week). Charlie the Maltese Tibetan cross dog that we got her last time I was home is beautiful but very spoilt. Mum has great neighbors which is probably one of the reasons that she can still live in her own home as they look out for her and the dog. Charlie does the escape thing at times and the neighbors have to holt all the traffic in the street till they catch her because she has the bad habit of playing “Catch me if you can” so has everyone in the neighborhood chasing her till she tires of the game. Mum often loses the dog only to find that she forgets and leaves Charlie it at her friends place. So her life is never dull.

Mum is not the only reason I come here to NZ. I do quite a bit of research on lifestyle, money saving ideas, and generally culture differences of interest.
I find New Zealand is probably one of the more environmentally aware countries in the world.
Generally and I don’t mean everyone, New Zealanders are basically frugal, in my opinion.
If there is a hole in it they will mend it, if it breaks down they will fix it as long as the parts are still available, they tend to have their own ‘Vege’ garden, they tend to walk rather than drive if they can, fast food meals are not as common as in most countries although it is creeping into to society these days. As a whole I believe it is one of the cleaner more beautiful countries in the world.
So when I come here I love to look through their health, nature, cooking, lifestyle magazines and often I will find some really helpful and interesting subjects which I then pass on to you.

Well I have been on my 5k run, walked the dog, stopped for a cappuccino, had breakfast, written this blog and about to find an internet cafe so that I can post it on my website.

Haere Ra (farewell)
Ka Kite Ano (Until I see You again)

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