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Traveling Alone – Tips for Solo Traveling

  1. Smartraveller website suggests female solo travellers should book and check in using a first initial and surname only with no Miss, Ms or Mrs, and it’s a good idea not to tell anyone where you’re staying if they know you’re by yourself.

2. If anyone else is within earshot when you are asked your room number at breakfast give your name instead, and always listen to your intuition.

3. If your room doesn’t feel safe when you check in, ask to change rooms or move to another hotel.

4. If someone waiting for the same lift makes you feel uneasy, say you’re waiting for a friend and will get the next one. Take note of your gut feeling with this one.

5. Avoid a ground floor room if you can as they are the easiest to break into, and as so many hotel doors don’t have chains on them a simple rubber door wedge can help you sleep better at night.

6. Sit in the back seat behind the driver and either make a call to someone to say you’re on your way or mention to the driver that your partner is waiting for you. If you opt for the train train instead, avoid sitting in an empty carriage.

7. Petty theft can happen regardless of where you travel so it’s best not to carry all of your cash and cards on you when you’re out and about.

8. Keeping a reserve locked away in the hotel means you have a back-up plan should the worst happen.

9. Make scans of important travel documents and email them to yourself, this will save hours of time in paperwork if anything does happen

10. Ask your hotel if there are any areas you should avoid before you go exploring, and if you ever do feel a little lost or uncertain, don’t show it. Walk with calm confidence and retrace your steps until you’re back in your comfort zone.

11. If you start to crave human interaction join a walking tour

12. Want to see a show don’t be put off if you see a Sold Out sign at a show you want to see. Single seats can appear so ask and you may be happily surprised.

TABLE FOR ONE

Solomangarephobia is a fear of eating alone in public.

Bring along a book or magazine, take the time to write postcards or capture your travels in your journal, edit the photos in your phone or do a little social media update. Make yourself busy.

A counter seat or a seat at the bar can be a good option

No matter where you decide to go, make sure you do your research beforehand.

Remember that careful planning before you leave on your travels  is essential to help you choose a destination where you’ll feel safe and comfortable, and be prepared for any issues you might face.

Register your trip with Smartraveller.gov.au If you are from Australia, download the Smartraveller app and make sure you have the right insurance for all of the activities you plan to do. The US has a Smart Traveler Enrollment program where you can register your trip. Good idea to use this

This is an important oneListen to your intuition, follow your travel dreams and remember a solo trip is one of the best gifts you can ever give yourself. And you deserve it.

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13 Toxic Phrases You Should NEVER Say To Your Kid

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As a a young mother I did not have a computer or that much contact with the outside world as we were in remote areas. Plus My Mum and Dad were thousands of miles away so my experience of Mother Hood was zilch I just did the best that I knew how like most of us.

I always love the lesson I learnt from observing, was to hug my children as much as I could (That I learnt from a friend as I did not experience that with my parents). 

To tell them that you love them as much as you can (That also I did not learn from my parents. In fact when I call my Mum who is 96 I always end the call with “Love You Mum”. I have never ever heard her return “I love you too”. She just not know how. Kinda Sad I think. That generation found it hard to be demonstrative )

The other thing I have learnt is that when you walk into the room a child will always look at your face to see the greeting, so always make sure your face is filled with delight at the sight of them. 

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This is an article written by Samantha Darby for Romper.

I could have written this article myself being a mother of two but Samantha has done a great job writing this article and probably a better job than me.

So this article is one that all new Mothers should read because we do make mistakes and maybe if we ‘Knew better we would do better’. 

Thinking twice before saying these phrases to our children may be the kindest thing we can do for them.

 

 

1. “Stop Crying.”

If your child is crying, then they are upset. Sure, it’s frustrating that the reason they’re crying is because you gave them the exact snack they asked for, but kids are kids. How many times have you, as an adult, burst into tears over nothing? Telling your children to stop crying is telling them that the way they process their emotions isn’t OK.

2. “Just Let Me Do It.”

Watching your 3-year-old try to zip his own jacket with mittens on is hard, I know. Especially when they are insistent on doing it on their own. But the phrase “just let me do it” can be damaging. Instead, ask them if they need help or ask if you can show them a trick to making it easier.

3. “I Don’t Like You Right Now.”

Kids are going to do some terrible things. They’re going to make giant messes, they’re going to throw tantrums, they’re going to act out when you ask them to do something — it’s all normal. And sure, there will come a point when you think, “I don’t even like my own kid right now.” But you can’t say that to your little mini-me. Instead, tell them you don’t like the way they are acting or the way they are speaking.

4. “You Have No Reason To Be Upset.”

How do you know? I once got upset because I lost one of my child’s boots in Target and cried the whole way home. I felt like an idiot, but I had my reason for crying, and so does your child. They have every right to be upset about something and, often, the reason they’re upset may be something normal like they’re exhausted or hungry. (Seriously, if anyone knows the life of a child being hangry, it’s my kid and me.)

5. “Only Babies Act Like That.”

This phrase covers a whole range of situations. I’ve heard parents say this to older children crying, to big kids having accidents, and even to preschoolers who are over-tired. It’s belittling, end of story.

6. “I Sacrifice A Lot For You.”

Lots of mommy martyrs like to use this one. Of course you sacrifice a lot; you’re a mother. But your children didn’t ask to be here. They didn’t ask you to have them. Reminding them that you sacrifice a lot for them makes you the queen of guilt trips and can make your children feel like they owe you something for being a mother.

7. “Leave Me Alone.”

We all need quiet time as parents, but you should say that instead. “Mommy needs a little break.” “Mommy is going to have some alone time.”

8. “I Never Get Time To Myself.”

Again, sanctimommy words. There’s literally no reason to say this to your child. You’re going to make them feel bad if they’re old enough to process that statement, or you’re just putting it in their head that they are a nuisance.

9. “Stop Asking Me Questions.”

It’s annoying, I know. But you want your kids to be curious. You want them to question their surroundings, to ask you about things they hear and see.

10. “Get Over It.”

You’re basically telling your child that their feelings don’t matter and that they need to hurry up and move past a situation. Unfair.

11. “It’s Not A Big Deal.”

But everything is a big deal to kids. Literally, everything. If they finish a puzzle, if their ice cream cone falls to the floor, and seeing a giraffe at the zoo — all enormously big deals.

12. “Don’t Be So ___.”

Shy. Bratty. Rude. Talkative. Loud. This is your child. They are going to do things and say things and sometimes you’re not going to like it. But telling them not to be something doesn’t help. You can ask them to “be more grateful” instead of saying, “don’t be so rude.” It’s all about positive reinforcement.

13. “I Don’t Care.”

Whether it’s about their friend at recess that ate a wood chip or that they are now a Buzz fan instead of Woody, it’s important to them. It’s important that they share things with you, that they ask you what you think. They want you to be just as excited as they are, so muttering that you don’t care makes them feel like their thoughts are pointless. If you don’t care, why should anyone else?

 

 

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