Are you in a situation that you have become comfortable with, yet you know you are not happy. You don’t feel fulfilled. You are in a relationship that you know is not working, boring, uninspiring, you just so don’t want to be in it, but you just go along because its easy. You don’t want to make waves.
This often happens in young relationships that start at college and it becomes easy, comfortable and expected in the end you will get married and not long down the track you realize what you have done. Some stay, but most of the time the marriage suffers a breakdown.
You are in a job you just hate. Everyday it is a chore to get to work.
You have too much “Stuff” it is bogging you down. You would like to move but you have too much “Stuff” and it is easier to stay where you are than move or get rid of it.
I am sure we have all been in this situation. Some of us make a move, while others stay in this situation for years and years until life makes a decision for them.
Stop right now. Life is too short. I know you have heard that many times but the older you get the more real it is. I have made some very uncomfortable changes in my life and each one of them has led me to some great adventures and some not but each time it has led me on a journey that has taught me more lessons. Each one of the changes had to be made and I will still be making changes till I take my last breath.
Don’t waste a minute of your time.
I know it is fine for me to say this, but I also have some suggestions that might make the change easier or give you that ah ha moment that tells you that you are about to do the right thing.
1. Be Honest.
Stop lying to yourself. Start being honest, it will get easier the more you do it. Talk to yourself. They say it is the first sign of madness but I think it is the first move to change your life. Ask yourself some hard questions. About relationships, attitude, habits, all those things.
2. Make a list of 5 people who are important to you.
If you cannot think of 5, then whatever number you are comfortable with, I think more than 5 is probably stretching the imagination a little.
If some of the people that surround you, actually annoy you and you know you could live without, they are not a good influence on your life, they are negative “high maintenance”, then it is time that you moved on from them. Not always an easy thing to do but a decision you need to make.
3. Think about moving to a smaller living space.
You will be forced to sell or get rid of personal items that will not fit in the new place.
4. Write a list of 7 things that are irreplaceable in you life.
At the same time you will find things that you do not need or use and can live without.
5. Quit your Job.
Well you can dream about it.
With 15 million people, out of work in America, it maybe not the brightest thing to do. Unless you are about to take the leap and work for yourself.
Maybe you have an entrepreneurial idea. If you think it is good, get moving, do some more research. Make the change. Don’t make excuses.
Dreams are cheap and you don’t know what you might come up with so dream away it may be the first step to change.
6. Decide to do something out of the box.
Try extending yourself. Start training for a marathon, take up ballroom dancing, join toastmaster, write a book, start walking (if you are not into exercise – just try it).
7. Get rid of commitments.
If you have commitments that are a drag but you do them because you don’t want to offend. Eliminate the ones that are not essential. Give yourself more time to make these changes.
Who knows what will come of these changes. You may meet new and exciting friends, your career may explode in a totally unexpected direction and heaven forbid you may even get fit with all the exercise you are doing.
“If you don’t do different nothing will change” Quote Me
Happy Restructuring your life.