“How can anyone ever love you for who you are if you become someone else to be with them?” -Unknown Author
When I began this book the last thing I was thinking about was giving advise on new relationships.
In fact I should be the last one giving advise on relationships for many reasons which I will keep to myself.
I make this time an exception because it is something I never gave any thought to in my younger days and lucky for me this problem was never an issue. It is excellent information and hopefully helps to attain a secure financial future for young couples and a happy future.
It is really all about “Honesty”. If you are not true to yourself in a relationship then it will be short lived.
It is impossible to keep up pretence, to be something or somebody you are not. It is very destructive and will cause an inevitable breakdown between couples.
Chapter 9 in my book covers many subjects that will help make sure your future relationship gets off on the right foot.
The subject of dating and marriage is usually emotional. It’s hard to use a lot of logic when we are talking about feelings and emotions. It’s necessary to consider some things with your head before you make the leap with your heart. The suggestions that I make here make perfect sense to me, but I realize that when you’re in love and emotionally involved, your judgment could be clouded.
You need to ask yourself some very hard questions and the find answers before making a commitment to someone for the rest of your life. In today’s economic climate the financial decisions you make now are going to be very important in the future.
Consider these things before you leap:
1. Dating–This is an area which may cause your emotions to take over and not look at the obvious; especially if you are head over heels in love. This is important and it could save you a lot of heartache later in the relationship. Before you get deeper into the relationship, check your partner or future spouse’s fiscal score. If you find that your date has a bad credit rating, you must consider many things. You must discuss the situation to see if you can get rid of the debt or at least pay it down so that his or her credit score is better. Down the line you may want to live together and decide you need a loan to buy a house. You will soon know that a bad fiscal score will affect the interest that you will pay on the loan. It could mean the difference between buying a house or not. If you don’t sort this out and be absolutely honest with each other, you can be sure further down the line this will affect your relationship and may destroy it.
2. Wedding–This can be touchy subject. It is a very important day, and for most girls a lifetime dream. You need to understand something about the two of you joining together for the rest of your life. It is about the marriage and your relationship, not the wedding. It is a day of permanent commitment between you and your spouse, with great love and excitement. The success of your future together surely does not depend how big and how fancy your wedding was. You need to ask yourselves, “What size wedding can we AFFORD?” You may be fortunate enough and have wealthy parents who may pay for it. However, if it is coming out of your pocket I suggest you have a good look at the cost.
*There are a lot of variables that can make the cost of a wedding soar to staggering heights. A wedding with approximately 200 people could cost $50,000. Whatever it is, it is a lot of money and often larger than a deposit needed on a house, a car, or land. You need to ask yourself, “Can we afford it?” Or better yet ask, “What else could we do with the money?”